This has been the most hectic summer ever. Long after major milestones took place last month such as my wife's move from being a prosecutor to corporate lawyer, and my birthday march into 40, we simply got ourselves busy with entertaining visitors from abroad, from the province, plus a few more summer activities like the usual swimming lessons for kids.
Somehow the end result of the six day daily trek to Cavite early last month slipped my mind. Taking a back seat to all the current happenings including the string of presentations I've been doing with clients and agencies, I simply forgot about IT(signs of aging?). Then yesterday, IT all came in as a big surprise. As it was texted by the secretariat of the Junior Golf Foundation of the Philippines, my 5 year old son earned his slot to be part of Team Philippines in the Callaway Junior World Golf Championships in San Diego, California.For those who are familiar with the game, we know that this is THE olympics of golf for kids. San Diego is Mount Olympus for junior golfers. At my son's age group, there will be no halfway cut. All kids, 6 and under will play for three straight days.
It is obvious that as a parent, I am excited, elated, and ecstatic. I have to confess though. I am also somewhat confused.
Allow me to explain. In Oaui's (Joaquin's nickname) age group, he will be competing against boys who are practically seven years old. Although his category is the defined as the "6 and under", the rules allow kids into that category provided that that they are not seven years old on the days of the tournament. As it is, Oaui may be up against those who are 6 years and 11 months old. In that category, there is a big difference between a 5 year old like him and another who is on the verge of turning seven. Driving power is different, pitching more accurate, putting skills more sensitive.
I'm not trying to come in with the mentality of a defeatist but I think I have enough common sense to see what we're up against. We won't be any different than the Philippine Olympic team battling the Chinese in Beijing this August(LOL!). However, for a parent who values sowing seeds of confidence and other positive intrinsic values into a child, this experience may be priceless. Laying the golf aside, there could be no better venue to plant in Oaui's heart, timeless values which may serve him well as foundations for life.Just in case you didn't know it, GOLF also stands for Guidance Of a Loving Father.
I used to hate golf. My friend Minnie Bobe will actually tell you how much I hated it as compared to the former sport of fencing. But little did I realize the great value of this sport. No, it's not about the personal discipline and dedication involved. It's about the mentoring. I honestly believe that there is no other sport (save for fishing) where a father can mentor his son or daughter both in the sport and in life itself with greater depth than golf itself.And then some more...like on the long drive home from the golf course you get to ask your kid, "Why do you like to play golf?". And suddenly you get stunned by answers like, "because I want to be with you".
Man, even Tiger Woods missed his dad and broke down in tears at the end of the 2006 British Open. This was his first major win after his dad passed away. Daddy Earl Woods was no longer there to relish the victory and see him at the end of the 18th hole.
So here I am, perplexed to a great degree. Do we go? Or do we wait for another year? If we pass this year, we may not be assured of the same slot next year. That will be another gruelling 6 day elimination. If we go, obtaining that little crystal trophy will be an uphill climb. But if we go, priceless memories including the honor to carry the Philippine colors shall surely serve as a higher reward. After all, I have also dreamed of being Oaui's caddy one day. For now, it's time to pray about things.



wow, congrats bro.. keep it up..he can be the next tiger woods..
ReplyDeletethanks gene. i hope i can also be an earl woods :-)
ReplyDeletecongratulations to you and your 5-yo son, it's really a great privilege someone as young as him to be in that tournament. You must be some very proud dad... just seeing my 5 yo son finish one lap in his school pool made me 5-feet taller. :-D
ReplyDeletesalamat gid kt. congrats man sa imo.
ReplyDelete"Why do you like to play golf?". And suddenly you get stunned by answers like, "because I want to be with you".... cute lloyd!!!so where is your photo with your son?
ReplyDeleteThis is a rare opportunity - like you said, you may not get the same chance next year, so might as well go for it. It will be a great experience for both of you. When Tiger was turning pro, many people said that he was too young and he wouldn't be able to compete against the more experienced professionals - then he went on to win the Masters the next year...
ReplyDeleteI hope that you decide to go - that's easy for me to say, since I'm already here in southern California!
-Herme
will let you know in advance if we decide to make it. then perhaps you could make a surprise appearance at the course in your tiger outfit too :-) that would be fun!
ReplyDeletesan diego awaits...awaits greatness on the golf course and greatness on the father-son relationship that you guys have. i'm still no fan of golf but you are making me one. my dad played it but i never did.
ReplyDeletei had an initial disliking for golf already but i remember it was you who made me hate it all the more. i clearly remember how you summed it up, "I find no sense in hitting a ball and then chasing it to hit it away further again". if my memory serves me right, you mentioned that in your house one time when you were contemplating what to do with your dad's clubs (along with what to do with the "baby").
ReplyDeletefunny how things turned around for me.
I drive my kids to school and pick them up, too. Why? So I can be with them! Same thing as you read in this blog. We probably don't talk as much anywhere else as we do in the car. They won't be living at home forever . . . so parents (especially Dads) pay attention . . . spend time with your kids! Not just "quality" time, but "quantity" time. If you can afford to golf, do that, if you have the time to drive them to and from school, do that. There are a million other things you could do with them, too. Just do it! Training your children is one of the most important things you have been tasked to do on this Earth by the Heavenly Father. (Good piece, Lloyd) -Ken
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